A Letter to the Guys
Hi guys. It’s time we talk about all the women you know in your life.
You know all those pretty girls you know? Yeah, you know. You are picturing their cute faces and nicely sculpted bodies right now. Maybe you are thinking of one particular girl, or maybe you have quite a few in mind.
Each and every one of those girls — all your female friends, your girlfriend, your dance partners, the girl you met the other night, and all the girls you’ll meet in the future — are way more than just girls you’ve met. They are all first and foremost your sister in Christ. She is your sister, dude.
Now for those of you who have actual blood sisters, how do you treat them? Or better yet, how do you want other guys to treat them? You want to protect them and keep them from harm. Well, men, that is exactly how you should be treating every girl you meet, because she actually is your sister since we are all children of God.
Guys, you need to train yourself to see women this way. You should picture more than her hair, lips or chest when thinking about that girl you are interested in. You need to picture her heart. Because every woman has one. And I’d say about 95% of those hearts out there have been broken or bruised or completely beat up. You should see that heart as precious and valuable. And you should want to protect it with everything inside of you.
Her heart is not a toy to be played with, but a treasure to be cherished. So how can you train yourself to see her as more of a treasure to be cherished than a prize to be won?
Take your time to get to know her. Learn about her likes, wants, dreams, desires, dislikes, family, past, hopes and goals. All of those things either come from her heart or have affected her heart.
Make a commitment to yourself, to her and to God to guard her heart from hurt. That means you do whatever you can to protect her heart from getting more bruises. Meaning you don’t kiss her when she isn’t ready for it. You don’t lead her on if you don’t see a future with her. And you don’t make her promises you can’t keep.
Respect her. Romance her. Refresh her — by being a different kind of guy. The kind she wants to keep around. The kind she can respect. The kind she can feel protected with. The kind of guy who is her brother in Christ first, her friend second. And then, if you’re lucky, her boyfriend/husband third.
Because when it all comes down to it, protecting her heart really comes down to your heart.
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