It's Friday. Today would have been the first day of my second trimester. The worries would have decreased. My belly would have began showing. My baby should have tiny fingernails and functioning kidneys. Instead, today is Friday. Just another day of the week. As I've been writing about this loss, I've said many times that I HAD a miscarriage. But the fact is I AM miscarrying -- present tense. The physical part of this loss isn't over as much as I wish it was. It's really hard to grieve and move forward when you are still bleeding, still passing parts of the life you long to hold. Today Continue Reading
How to Help a Grieving Friend
What do we say when someone is grieving? How do we help when a friend is in pain? Are you wondering how to help a grieving friend? This topic has been on my heart lately. I've been told the saying, "God won't give you more than you can handle" during my own times of grief. In fact, it's a saying I believed and said to others. But not anymore. There are a lot of things in this world that God doesn't hand out. I believe most of the time, God is not the one causing our pain. Yes, He allows it, but He doesn't cause it or give it to us like some angry, punishing God. A lot of times the pain in Continue Reading